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hej, I am 32 years old an and I am in Sweden studying a master degree finishing this year in april. I met a swedish guy four month ago and we could say that we are in the beginning of a relationship. I went to my country during the christmas holidays and I found out there that I got pregnant. I just came back yesterday and I could told him about this situation. Now I am in the 6 week of pregnancy, exactly the time I was out of Sweden. He told me that he doesn't want to have a child now, because of the whole situation, we don´t know each other enough, he doesn't have the best economical situation right now, but he has a job at least, I am living as student so I am not working here yet, he is sharing an apartment with a friend, and he says that we can´t know if we will be together longer since we are just in the beginning. I will turn in 33 this year, and I have always thought that if one day something like that would happen I would have to be responsable of it, since this is the first time I get pregnant in my life, I am afraid to abort and then to not have the chance to be mother again, and also I feel afraid of how could affect me psycologically to have done an abort, and to feel regret for the rest of my life. I am here in Sweden alone, all my family is in my country and they don´t know what is happening with me right now, even dow I am sure they will support me if I tell them my situation. The thing is both of us, me and him think that it would be much better that to have a baby deserve a family structure and not just a single mother and a dad that belongs to a country that is quite far from mine. No body can be sure that we will be a couple for longer, but in another hand I have the inner wish to believe that the things happens for a reason and even if is not the perfect situation right now, . Its hard to make a desition about what to do, thats why I am writing here, to ask you what are your tips. I feel quite desperate since I am in a country that is not mine and I don´t really know how could be a single mother if in the end I take the desition of to have this baby.I will appreciate a lot any kind of comments about what I am living now. Many thanks in advance.
I red this and felt that i gotta answear you even dow i dont have some answear for ya... You got to do what feels right for u, and i absolutely understand that you want your baby to grow up with both parents. But i think you gotta look from your own perspective. You cant make a differense now right? So, you are probebly going to be a greit mother, and the baby Will surely have a good life even if you guys are a cuple or not! I have a friend, whos dad lives in us, and the mom in sweden, omg.. If she had a good life? YES! She goes there every summer, some years she even lived there. Her parents have never bin a couple, so its no lost for her! She have 2 families who loves here!